To see the author note “if you want to argue that, then there is nothing more I can tell you” is a big YES to me too, because many of the stated pieces are plain facts, regardless of how unpleasant to your palate it may taste. My favourite parts were these insights as well as the self-development motivation to get better with each mate, to keep your head up, know what is personal and what can be girl-chat, the inspiration to keep going, and the value of family as they are particularly well-written scenes as well. There are boundaries to be placed, ways to keep your man/husband satisfied, postures to be held, and friendships to be grasped through the read, with insight from true life events and noting the author’s life to be prosperous and well suited, the book kept me in suspense of whether or not what I have been noticing from society to be wholly true. Unlike leading the blind to a ditch, where women are taught to hone their own and merely use men as basic sponsors to soare high while letting these men play out their deepest fantasy. I think with my current shift in life, this book is very realistic although mostly, not many women live by the detailed rules, many still find themselves seeking the confinement of financial protection from men. There are valuable guidelines that step by step help you through using your energy to get what you want yet remain grounded in what is important, all the while being kind and educated with grand etiquette. This is a very “let’s face it” quick read, and that alone makes me love it. The book in bulk tells women how to level up, according to the most seen standards of life. It is a win-win for both Divine Feminity and Sacred Masculinity, in a way. It holds all the tips my sisters could have taught me about the blatant facts of how society sees us, social currency, and how to use it best to our advantage. This book is about how in East- central China’s Shanghai women’s basic guide to hypergamy – picking the best-suited rich man to have to hook your lovely youthful hand to his side elbow while you benefit and level up, too.

Shanghai Girls by Lan Lan